I Was Afraid of My First Gay Tantra Retreat. Here’s What Happened. 🏳️🌈🤭
- Guillaume de Cœurs d'hommes
- 3 hours ago
- 2 min read
Many men who contact Men’s Hearts tell me the same thing.
They feel curious.
They feel called.
And they are also afraid.
Their words often bring me back to my own first gay tantra retreat.
At the time, I was probably the least likely person to attend such an event.
I was not connected to the gay community. I felt uncomfortable in groups. My spiritual life was deeply important to me, yet I struggled to reconcile spirituality with sexuality.
For months, I hesitated.
Something in me felt drawn to Tantra, while another part wanted to stay safely where it was.
When I finally arrived at the retreat, I carried many expectations. Part of me imagined an intensely spiritual experience. Another part secretly hoped for something very different.
What I discovered was neither of those fantasies.
It was something far more meaningful.
I spent much of the retreat protecting myself. I resisted many of the exercises. I stayed close to one partner and avoided opening fully to the group.
And yet, despite all my fears and resistance, I felt strangely at home.
For the first time, I experienced a space where spirituality, intimacy and human connection could exist together.
Years later, after attending many retreats and supporting others on their own journeys, I can clearly see how transformative that first experience was.
It helped me reconnect spirituality and sexuality.
It helped me find lasting friendships.
It helped me discover a deeper sense of belonging.
Most importantly, it helped me feel more fully myself.
This is one of the reasons Men’s Hearts exists today.
To offer gay and queer men a welcoming space where they can explore intimacy, brotherhood, personal growth and conscious connection at their own pace.
All Men’s Hearts retreats are open to international participants and are facilitated in both French and English, with translation provided whenever needed.
If you feel curious and nervous at the same time, you are not alone.
Many of us started exactly where you are.
And sometimes, one step into the unknown can change far more than we imagine.
Tantrically,
Guillaume Douceré
Facilitator at Men’s Hearts
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